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Created: 22 March 2023

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Did you ever open a book, watch a film, wear a piece of clothing that you had “forgotten” for a long time, and enjoy it again, in a different way you did before, because you have changed since the past time you used it? We could even think “why on earth did I not do it earlier?” The same feeling you might experience when getting in touch with friends again after a long interruption.

Sometimes, it's not really that we have forgotten “it” for a long time, but quite simply that we never gave it much attention at first glance.

That's what happened to Alice. After the French Congrès Virtuel d'EFT 2014, she bought the package of the conferences recordings, so she could listen to them again and benefit even more in the long run. Every speaker offered a bonus attached to this package. Therefore she received 14 free gifts, including mine, a 40 pages PDF called “Healing Path, Life Path – Road guide for the traveller”.

As we reached a specific point of our work together on her own path, I asked her if she'd used that guide. Not really, but she got curious, and here is the result, one week later.

“When I first opened your bonus, I looked at the table of contents, went through a few pages, and I closed it down. Verdict : interesting, but not a priority.
One week ago, you suggested I'd use it as part of this work we're doing together. Since your advice is usually good, I did it. Not really convinced, but not rejecting it!
What a surprise! It reveals its treasures from the very first pages!
''Traveller's Guide'' is its name. I found it a little bit arrogant.
It deserves it, in the end, I think. It got me right in the heart of “real issues”. Thus it allowed me to unlock an old rusty lock, that has been “over” for over 30 years, but was still so active and painful!!!!”

It looks like it was a fruitful experience. The so-called lock was “simply” that from te time she was a child up into adulthood, Alice's family used to tease her by calling her “Little Genius”, in an mocking and repetitive way. It might sound harmless when we look at it with an adult eye, but this leitmotiv had left a vivid, deep and far reaching open wound in Alice. The term “Little Genius” had thus remained a trigger for suffering over several decades. Things changed though went she decided to use the Guide which had been sitting there in front of her, available. As she puts it so nicely:

“The “Little Genius” - how delightful to have no suffering and enjoy laughing about it – Little Genius, was I saying, made a giant step!”

Amongst the numerous, sudden, varied, sometimes unexpected but always pleasant changes that Alice states after her “unlocking”, we can mention:

- a switch in her relationship with others
“I visited my neighbour just to know how she was!”, “X had nearly developed a rule to avoid me when he would see me. And today, he knew me! Unreal!, “I booked a table tomorrow with sea-view to share diner with Laura.”, I accepted that a friend would come and stay with me for 3 days. And I'm delighted with it! Arg! I am about to become a normal person... So great....”

- A change in her wardrobe content

“Except black and white I only wear/used to wear warm colours. I was nearly unable to wear cold colours. My clothing is currently experiencing an evolutive chromatic mutation! Is that bad? On the contrary! These last months, a little bit, these last days, quite a lot... I bought light green/turquoise, blue, green and violet clothes.And I really feel like wearing them. Quite impossible to conceive of such a short time ago!”)

- A decrease in her symptoms of “Acute Perfectionitis”
“I managed an update on my CV in 10 minutes. It used to take me hours when I had to modify my CV.... One outcome : I take faster decisions.“

The Guide's treasures only appeared to Alice when she used it to uncover her own healing treasures.

So back to you. What can YOU use NOW to move forward on your own path? Take your eyes off the screen, look around you. Could it be that, right under your nose, or not far out, there is a clue to explore, or just an object you don't see anymore, out of habit? What if you looked at it as if it was the first time?

Which new information could you see or hear by opening again a long forgotten book, watching a film, or by getting back in touch with a friend? Or maybe you'd forgotten you can tap :-)

Just a slight warning, a though such as “I SHOULD have done it for a long time” could come near your mind, with attached guilt, sadness or other. If this ever happened, could that be an opportunity to tap and clean something out?

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Created: 22 March 2023

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When we look around at all the issues in the world, how can we possibly be happy? How selfish to laugh while we know about all the world's misery and unhappiness, when we know about war and hunger and all the rest of it? Or is it? What if science showed us otherwise?!?! Unhappiness, grief, sadness, it's all around us. And when it's far away, we might feel there's not much we can do about it, except providing funds or maybe going there and helping on the ground, which not many people "can" do, whether we're considering the human side or technical/logistics side of it. If we consider something slightly easier and look at health issues, we hear daily about clinical studies focusing on problems, such as stress, diseases etc...More problems, more unhappiness. How often do you hear about a clinical study exploring a solution? For example, are you aware that there are studies about the positive impact of relaxation? That article from the University of Maryland Medical Center provides a good review of the impact of relaxation on our health. That might explain that more and more hospitals are offering meditation and relaxation services. But my preferred one is this one : "Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study". In plain English : "Is Happiness contagious?" And guess what the conclusion is: "People's happiness depends on the happiness of others with whom they are connected. This provides further justification for seeing happiness, like health, as a collective phenomenon.". Layman's terms: "Yes, happiness is contagious!" You'll find all the detail about this study, involving 4739 individuals followed from 1983 to 2003, on the British Medical Journal (BMJ) website. Therefore, what about being selfishly happy? Now that we know scientifically that to spread happiness, we have to FEEL it, what about making happiness grow in our life? That doesn't make all the unhappiness and misery in the world any more acceptable, and when we can do something practical about it, by all means, let's do it, but isn't it a bit easier to think about solutions when we're happy and relaxed instead of worried and tense (there are medical studies about that too...)? It seems we CAN ALL do something for our direct neighbours to begin with: let's see the happiness in our lives! What made you happy so far today? Did you say "thank you" or feel gratitude for it? What about taking a minute to find out right now by reviewing your day, or even your last week? On the same topic, you might want to read again the blog about "Being loving or being love...". Be happy!

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Created: 22 March 2023

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My version of it involves 3 steps :

• Step one:

  identify one person you have great respect and/or admiration for. It can be anybody, from a fairy tale character to a public persona or somebody you met or somebody who is part of your daily life.

• Step two:

  Write them a letter where you explain to that person what you really appreciate in them. What their best qualities are and how that person either sets a good example for you or makes you feel better. For once, this is not about specific events, but only about values and general qualities. The important bit is to put your heart into it. You won't have to show this letter to anybody, so don't worry about what others might say, just be fully honest.

  Start with “Dear xxxx”, and finish signing with your name.

• Step three;

• Well if I tell you now what step 3 is, it will loose all its fun. So if you're reading a printed version of this newsletter, you'll have to do step one and two, and only then, find out here what to do next. Enjoy!

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Beware, this is not about these new years resolutions that will disappear into thin air. I'm talking about those things than light your fire, that make you feel alive and move forward in life, which make you smile when you think about the future.

Well, smile when you think about the future. In some cases, it's obvious, comes without saying, the future is bright, smiling right back at us!

But in other cases, it's far from obvious. It might even seem unreal. Disease, financial trouble, family issues, feelings of hopelessness, feeling stuck in every area of your life.. why bother looking into the future and making up plans based on thin air?

Well, why not then?

Every single realisation of humanity started with a dream. A dream that sounded crazy. But also a dream that ended up sprouting into reality, with persistence, or sometimes easily enough. There has been crazy dreams of health, such as the stories I mentioned yesterday, of the ones you might remember me discussing before such as Jean Claude Gruau and all those who, like him, healed their bladder cancer, avoiding surgical removal of their organ, just by exploring the medical benefits of fasting, or Norman Cousins who escaped the paralysis resulting from an Ankylosing Spondylitis by laughing his way out of it (and a few other discoveries).

Other crazy dreams turned reality include freedom from the burden of sexual abuse for Sue and many others. Incredible dreams of financial success, family re-unions... What ARE your dreams?

Today, I'm suggesting that you follow Antoine de Saint Exupéry's advice : “Future. You don't have to plan for it, just allow it to be.”

Could you find 10 things that you would like to allow in your future?

How to write your list:

There are many ways to look at this exercise. Your dreams might be so vivid for you that you only need to put pen to paper and it will write on its own.

Or you might not even dare writing them down, because they seem too improbable, too crazy. If this is your case, you can use more “acceptable” sentences, such as “I'm opening up to the possibility that...” or “I wonder how I would feel if...”

Or you might not even have one dream coming to mind at all. I felt that way that during depression. But if you are reading this, somewhere at the bottom of your heart, there is a small light of hope. What about opening the door to it? Here is one way for you to write that list: take a piece of paper, and split it in 2 columns. On the left, list 10 aspects of your life that don't suit you, such as :

- fatigue or symptoms from a disease - a situation in your family - a financial situation, and so on...

On the right, write down a positive version of that situation. E.g.

- “ I have no energy to run my daily life” might become “Everyday I feel more and more energetic!” - “I can't cope anymore with this situation with X.” might become “The situation with X is solved to every concerned person's benefit”. - “I'm fed-up carrying all this weight around” might become “my body is naturally reaching its balance and I love the feeling that I am at my ideal weight”.

Here's your list!

What to do with your list?

You “only” need to tap now!

There again, you have several options.

- use one point per dream. Tap, read your choice and ask ONE opening question such as “I'm wondering which action I could take to get a tiny bit closer to my dream?”. If no answer is coming out, no worries, the question has been asked, the answer will come in its own time.

- if you have a bit more time available, you could tap a full round or more per dream, and describe your dream in details, what your life would be like if this dream became true, what you would feel in your body, what you would see around you... Don't you sometimes watch funny or touching movies which make you feel good? This is the same, except YOU are the director!

So enjoy your directing job, and I'll see you tomorrow for step 4.