Step 3 :
So you've written your letter and wondering where this is taking you?
First notice what it feels to be writing compliments that come from your heart. Is it a pleasant feeling? If yes, you might want to be grateful for this nice feeling. If not, what is unpleasant about it? Something to tap away..
Then you might have heard a saying which tells us how easy it is for us to see the mote in another person's eye while it is more difficult to see the beam in our own eye? Which by the way is one reason why we get better results tapping on our issues with someone else than on our own..
The same goes for positive aspects. We can be quicker to see our own defects and other's qualities. However, we cannot see what we have no knowledge of.
You might have heard the story which says that Native Americans could not “see” Columbus ships. The story actually seems to originate from Captain Cook arriving in New Zealand, where the natives showed no reaction at the sight of the ships, until Cook's men landed on longboats. The natives had no concept of what the ships were and what they might mean, hence no reaction, but armed men disembarking on longboats did mean something, which led them to react.
The point is, all these compliments you paid to the person you wrote to, you couldn't have made them if you didn't have personal knowledge of, and personal sensitivity to them yourself.
So now take your letter, where you wrote “Dear John”, put your own name, and where you signed with your name, replace it according to your preference with “your friend”, “your client”, or maybe “your admirer” :-)
How does it feel? Do you feel you have these qualities? What does it trigger in you? You might want to tap along as you are re-reading your letter, either to let the good feelings in or let the bad feelings out. Your subconscious will pick what needs to be done! Hope you enjoyed this.
The original idea for this exercices come from Margaret Lynch.