then she explained to me that she was experiencing arthrosis since aged 15! How very unusual. Her pains are mainly in her jaws and back.

When I asked my favourite question "what was happening in your life when it begun?", Marguerite answers that she was very tall as a teenager (1m73/5 ft 8 aged 13). They called her all sort of names like "grande duduche", "lankey"... and she found it difficult to be accepted, because she was taller than the other girls. Now aged 59, Marguerite thinks of it with her reasoning mind : "well , this is all a very long time ago, it's in my past...."

Translation notes : I don't know of names calling in English for a very tall kid. If you have any great idea, by all means, let me know :-) Thanks.

However, she still felt like she was not accepted. Even if the adult was applying reason, in the unconscious mind, the child still suffers, and any social gathering is an opportunity for stress. She has a party planned for that same evening.

I choose to use the Matrix Reimprinting technique (Click here for more details about that technique)

Marguerite cannot remember any specific event related to her feeling of not being accepted. I suggest that she imagines a likely scene, which fits her memories, something that could have been happening when she was about 15.

So here is Marguerite aged 15 (we'll call her "the ECHO") in the playground at school, while her "friends" are calling her names like "la grande duduche" or lankey. Marguerite (59) describes the situation and enters the scene to go and help her ECHO.

Marguerite and her ECHO begin to talk. Marguerite introduces herself, explains to her ECHO that she is an older version of herself, that she knows she's suffering and that she came to help her. She asks her ECHO what she's feeling right now.

The ECHO answers that she feels she's never in the right place, she feels rejected. Marguerite suggests a new game (EFT) which might be helpful. The ECHO accepts to play, and we start tapping on :

"Even though I feel rejected, I know I'm a good girl".

Her rejection feeling goes from 10/10(very strong feeling) to 4-5/10 (we're aiming a 0!).

But then a new aspect comes up, as Marguerite can feel unidentified and deep sadness coming up. After a few questions to the Echo, she remembers that her boyfriend Aldo has just left to live abroad, and didn't get a chance to say good bye. He was the only one who accepted her without judgement. It's a very big loss for the Echo. "Aldo leaving" has indeed many aspects to it : besides losing a boyfriend, she also looses the possibility to be accepted by anybody. So we tap with Marguerite's Echo about :

Even though Aldo has gone and couldn't even let me know, I choose to feel good anyway

Marguerite had long forgotten that incident, so she's very surprised to feel this deep sadness coming up. It takes the best of 10 minutes to tap away all aspects of this sadness, which goes from 10 (deep deep sadness) to 2 (very light sadness). Marguerite's Echo is now feeling better.

The sadness is not totally gone, though, and when we ask the 15 years old why, she immediately answers : "I'll never find another Aldo". More tapping material.

"Even though I will NEVER find another Aldo, I choose to accept myself, at least, that will be one person accepting me!"

A little bit of humour never hurts, when you're ready for it. After this round, the Echo becomes much happier and comments "well, it feels good!"

Before we leave her, Marguerite asks her if we can help with anything else. The 15 years old Marguerite explains that she can't express her feelings. Her parents never consider her needs, and she finds it difficult to breathe with all these "don'ts" (don't speak, don't invite friends at home, don't make any noise, don't laugh, don't cry etc...)

"Even though I can't say what I need to say, I choose to breathe freely, and to safely understand my own needs."

We still can't reach 0. Marguerite tells me that perfection is just not possible in this world...

"Even though I CAN'T feel perfectly fine because nothing is ever perfect in life, I choose to breathe freely, because I am perfect in my imperfections!"

This time the 15 years old Marguerite feels really good and chooses to go for a walk. The 59 years old Marguerite explains that she can use EFT whenever she wants, and that she can call her older self whenever she feels like it. The 15 years old is very grateful and the pair get a big hug before the older Marguerite leaves.

Marguerite comes back to present time with a feeling of relief. I ask her is she still feels rejected. Actually, the rejection issue is gone, but instead, there's the fear that she's not in the right place, and she's afraid of her tendency to have a very sharp tongue.

As in any session, the idea is to deal with the problem at hand, but also to understand how to use EFT day in day out, depending of your own needs and expectations.

So I suggest that Marguerite prepares for her party by imagining the worst that can happen, and to tap each of these aspects away.

Even though I'm not where I should be....

Even though I don't know what I could say...

Regarding allergies, I show her how to tap every symptom away as they appear.

Next day:

I get an email from Marguerite : to her great surprise, 3 different people commented during the evening that she was far less aggressive than usual. A very welcome side effect!

3 months later

Regarding arthrosis, 3 months later, pains in the jaw and the back are nothing like what they used to be. When they used to be constantly at 10 , they are now about 1 or 2, and only when the weather is really bad. Maybe a few more little things to tap on?

Marguerite has many other worries, but this first session gave her a measurable benefit, and open doors towards many possibilities. A great support to face the event we choose to "forget" from our past, even our subconscious mind keeps remembering and suffering... until we release it!

Suzie has been a close friend of mine for a very long time. She was right in the middle of a difficult divorce and depression, and when I phoned her just by chance (if such a thing as "chance" exists), she was crying uncontrollably.

I asked her what had happened. She told me she'd met her husband Paul that evening, and he had made a nasty remark about something. She ended up in tears.

Since then (3 or 4 hours later), she couldn't stop crying, and couldn't see any end to it. If I had asked her for her SUDS then (0-all is well, 10--disaster), I guess it would have been over 10, but really that wasn't the time for such a question. I had already told Suzie about EFT, but she'd forgotten about it.

We were both in front of our computers, and I sent her a 1 page reminder of the full procedure. She looked at it as I explained each point to her. I asked her what her biggest issue was at this very minute "I just feel sooo stupid that I cried" (her language was actually a bit more crude, and we followed it, since it is important to use your own words)

So the first round was :

"even though I feel sooo stupid that I cried in front of Paul tonight, I COMPLETELY love and accept myself"

reminder sentences on each point included

"I feel soooo stupid / stupid to cry in front of Paul tonight..."

The phone went silent, and I started to wonder what was happening. She stopped tapping and said "I've got all these different feelings coming over me, is that normal?"

I reassured her, and suggested that she finished the whole round and kept her feelings in mind so she could work on each of them.

After that round, we followed her own words :

"Even though I have so much sadness, and that's not normal, quite frankly, I really don't need that, I COMPLETELY love and accept myself"

reminder phrases :

"so much sadness / that's not normal / I really don't need that.."

Once again, silence, and suddenly : "you know what... I can breathe! It feels so good!"

So we were progressing, and Suzie's comments confirmed it to me : "I can't believe this... this is impossible... I can't believe I'm breathing freely".

In 3 rounds and less than 15 minutes, Suzie was at peace, fully able to speak without a tear in her voice.

I'd love to say that it was the end of all of Suzie's trouble, but it was actually the beginning of her solving all of her issues. We had numerous sessions after that over several months, before Suzie could really eliminate all the negative emotions related to her marriage and the rest of her life.

Perseverance was key in this case. But EFT was clearly a very important tool on Suzie's way to happiness.

Happy tapping to you!

We were at a friend's for a barbecue. One of the people in a group, John, was talking about some time he spent in Spain. He said that in Spanish, when you say that someone is your north, it means it’s the person who inspired you or guided you, usually a parent or a close relation or friend. While this sounded like an harmless statement, Lucy started crying and left the room as fast as she could.

I knew this was about her mother, who passed away a year before, aged 52 I think. Lucy is in her early thirties, and I also knew her father died quite a few years before, and she was now “the North” for her 2 younger sisters. We had had a conversation about EFT with that same group of friends earlier in the year, and before Lucy left the room, I had noticed that she had attempted to tap her Karate Chop point.

Even though I normally would not interfere, I followed her 2 minutes later and found her in a protected area of the garden (luckily it was very sunny, we live in Ireland!). I asked her if I could join her. She nodded yes. She was crying and in shock, but accepted that I proceed to tap on her directly, without saying anything. She had difficulty breathing, with very painful belches of air.

She calmed down a little after 4 or 5 rounds. As soon as I felt she could speak, I asked her to confirm my guess, and yes, this was about her mother. She said that only the evening before she had realised that she hadn’t cried for a long time. She also said that she would sometimes vomit.

She soon started to cry uncontrollably again. As I asked what she was feeling, she said "sadness". We did a round on

“even though I have all this sadness about my mother, and it’s so hard that she has gone, and now I’m on my own, I still completely love and accept myself”,

using reminder phrases such as “this sadness / so sad / too hard / it needs to get out...”.

As she was still having difficulty to eruct some air and was massaging her belly, I asked her where she felt a pain, she showed her stomach. I asked her what she called this place, since I had a feeling she would not call it “stomach”. She eventually said “solar plexus”.

“even though I have all this pain in my solar plexus and that needs to get out, I choose to release it”.

It was the first round where I could ask her to move her eyes, sing and count, while I was taping her gamut point. Sure enough, the release we were talking about came up : she eventually vomited. I kept tapping with the reminder phrase “this pain” for about 3 more rounds, doing all points except under nose and chin because it was not practical, and also focusing on myself for a short while too, so I could stay available to her.


She calmed down completely, said “that feels good”, smiled and laid down on the grass in the sun. I asked if she wanted me to stay or leave her alone. She asked that I’d stay. We moved to another place in the garden, a bit more sheltered from potential visitors. She asked me to explain a bit more about EFT. I gave her a short history. As she looked peaceful, I tested her by asking who was her North. She started crying again within a few seconds, she also said that it was bad timing because a friend had dropped her and didn’t have her car and couldn’t go home on her own. I proposed to take her home if/when she wanted so it was one less thing to worry about.

Getting back on our main issue, we did one round on

“even though I feel so sad, ...”

using a variety of reminders around the idea of sadness and release. It was the first round she actually tapped herself. She calmed down.

We talked about various things. She asked if it was normal to vomit. I reassured her and told her of Rossana Massey’s pancreatic cancer case where it looks like the cancer eventually got out of the body as gas. She also mentioned that she felt the under eye & collarbone points particularly powerful.

Each of the EFT points are related to a specific emotion and organ, and people usually have a point or a set of points that resonate more with them. I explained to Lucy that these were probably “her” points. I talked about other points she could do too (under chest, under arms).

As I cracked a joke about my tea getting cold because of her, she laughed. Again, I tested her. It took a bit longer (about 30 seconds...) but she cried again. The belches had gone at that stage, though. She did one more round with

“even though I still have all of this sadness, I still love and accept myself”.

Lucy was still crying and told me she was frustrated because she actually wanted to get back to the group.

“even though I’m so frustrated that I can’t get back to our friends, and I feel like this has no end...”.

We got some relief, but the frustration was still there. I asked her what her frustration looked like. Based on her answer, the next round was :

“even though I have this black ball frustration the size of a fist, in my upper right chest, and I’d like to go back to the others, but this has no end, I choose to feel calm, I accept that the tears are not finished, I choose to feel calm for now, and to know that the time will come when the tears will finish, when I’m ready, and I love and accept myself.”

using a variation from the set-up as reminder phrases.

She calmed down completely. She stretched and yawned, which are usual signs of relief. I asked her how her frustration was. She said it was gone. "Not even a ping pong ball left?". She laughed and said “not even”. We talked a bit more.

I tested her one last time on her north and she was OK answering it was her mother. She said she might walk around for a while. We moved back towards the house and met John on the way. I left them to talk, John being quite sorry he obviously had started a crisis, however involuntarily.

Lucy actually joined us again immediately after. She was yawning a lot but she looked OK. Later in the day, I asked if she wanted me to take her home, she smiled and said she was OK. She remained smiling and even laughed many times for the rest of the party.

I had been learning about and practicing EFT for about 8 months, and just completed my Level 2 Practitioner training at this stage. While I was already convinced about EFT's power, for the want of a better word, I was amazed at the level of peace Lucy could reach in less than an hour, starting from a deep trauma reaction. If I had any doubts before, I was now convinced that day I had to become an EFT practitioner, and do my best to help bringing relief wherever I could. May Lucy's story and all the others bring peace to many people.

3 months follow-up

Lucy did not have any other crisis on that matter. When 2 months and 1/2 later, Lucy went through another trauma as her Grand Mother passed away; she could face it more easily, using EFT as well as other meditation techniques she's familiar with.

Five years before, Julia had had a car crash. It wasn't a big one and she got back to work the next day. However, she kept what she described as "an annoying pain" in her shoulder. Four years later, she eventually complained to her GP about it, and he said the only thing he could do was to prescribe some pain killing patches. She'd change them every week, and they release pain killers on a regular basis. She'd been using these for a year, at great expense.

Julia was wearing one of these and her pain was still at a 5 that day. There was no point in trying to explain anything, so I suggested we start immediately. As I was about to go with "even though I have this pain in my right shoulder, I love and accept myself", I noticed a clear reticence to saying the last part.

We tried a first go instead as :

"even though I can't say that I love and accept myself, I'm open to the possibility that one day I might be able to say it".

We only did the shortcut on this; it was worth trying, but I had a feeling we wouldn't go far at that stage. And we didn't. So I changed tactics and asked her what positive feeling she had about herself. She said she was good at her job.

So off we went, with the full basic recipe, this time:

"even though I have this annoying pain in my shoulder, I'm good at my job and I'm proud of myself".


She followed politely as I was taping along with her, explaining after the first round each point and the reasons for the eyes movements and the singing and counting. But then I asked her how her shoulder was. She hesitated a bit, her face still tense, saying "do you want a an honest answer?" in a way that made me think that there had been no progress at all ... and she eventually said "it's a 2 now"! I knew then we were on for some results. A further round on "this remaining shoulder pain" got rid of it, at least for that time. Well, actually, she never said it was a 0, she just said she felt relaxed and smiled.

Then we got onto the real issue. It turns out that a young driver had arrived behind her far too fast, and as he was reaching on the floor of his car for his mobile phone, he didn't see her. She could see him coming and pulled out of the way seconds too late to avoid the shock. She was "over it" now, but discussing it a bit further, she said she could hear the bang sometimes, and that would keep her unable to sleep, or bring on a migraine.

"even though I can still hear that BANG sometimes, and I can't sleep then, I'm a strong woman, and I choose to release the bang."

Reminder phrases progressively focussed more on the anger towards the other driver for putting this bang in her head.

When I asked her to rate her anger towards this man on a 0-10 scale, she put it at a... 20!

"even though I've got this "20 anger" against this stupid young man I'm a strong woman, and I'm proud of myself, and I might forgive him ... one day"


We only got partial progress on this, but it opened new doors:

"even though I'm so angry at myself because I saw him coming and I didn't move fast enough to avoid the accident, I'm a strong woman, and I'm proud of myself, because I pulled out early enough to still be alive today, and I'm open to the possibility that I might forgive myself one day".


That was a pretty long statement, but it was worth the effort, as I could see her relaxing even further, admitting that she might actually forgive herself a bit more readily than she would forgive him.
Julia really is a very strong woman and has been through a lot during her life. She thought she was done with that accident. However, as I asked for any other aspects she went on: "you see, I have to pass this place every single day. I'm over it now, but at the beginning, it brought me goose bumps every single time". Well, if this was coming up in the conversation, she wasn't totally over it yet, so it was worth a little attention too. Julia was very used at covering up her feeling to be able to cope with it all.


"Even though when I pass this place every day, I might have some fear and anger coming back up and I'm not aware of it, I'm a strong woman, and I choose to release that fear and that anger".

Reminder phrases included statements like :

that fear and that anger.
I don't feel them,
maybe my subconscious is hiding it from me to protect me,
and it went into my shoulder
I thank my subconscious for having protected me from this fear and this anger all these years,
now I am ready to face them,
I ask my subconscious to uncover this fear and this anger for me,
so I can deal with them,
I choose to release them,
I'm thankful that my subconscious now allows me to release this fear and this anger


There was no instant realisation of relief, but Julia definitely came in as an angry and exhausted woman, and came out of the session relaxed and more peaceful, ready to address other very difficult issues she had at this time.

On our second session, Julia wanted to discuss these other stressful issues and migraines. Her shoulder pain was still there, but lighter. We went along discussing the other issues, got some relief, and after she left, I sat down to e-mail her a little bit of homework. Only then did I realise that all along this 2nd session, we'd be using "I love and accept myself". On our 3rd session, I asked her if she had just been polite, and she answered "You know what, I actually enjoy saying it". Well, to me, that only, was a huge achievement on Julia's list.

Her shoulder pain was still at a 2, and as she put it :  "it's my own fault because I'm guarding myself all the time".  But this was not a priority anymore, so we decided to leave that one alone for now.

Still she could now control her pain as well as her migraines, and was even thinking about removing the patches when things would get a bit quieter in her life. EFT brought her a way to control her stress too, so she saves her energy to face her challenges instead of "wasting" it dealing with constant unbearable pain.

EFT might not solve everything for you all the time, but it will give you the choice to deal with your priorities. 

6 month follow-up

The difficult times and challenges Julia was facing at the time are now happily over. Julia has been using EFT along to manage her migraines. She has now completely removed her patches, as she doesn't need them anymore.

If you have a chronic pain, could there be an emotional explanation to it too?

Lynda knew I was working on developing EFT awareness. I had explained to her what it was about, but still, when I suggested I might be able to help her a bit with the pain, she thought I was joking and showed me her box of pain killers. When I insisted somewhat, I guess she eventually thought "why not", and decided to give it a go.

I explained very briefly the procedure, saying I'd rather get some relief first if we could. I only used the shortcut for the whole time. We started very simply, with her main worry :

"Even though my chin feels very tender at the touch, and it's very sore, I love and accept myself".

I was so focused on getting her relieved fast I had forgotten to ask her to rate her pain SUDS and only told her after the first round. She said it had probably been an 8 (0- all is fine, 10 - can't bear it)... and was now at a 7.

"even though I have this remaining pain in my chin, I love and accept myself, and I choose to release that pain."

The pain went down to a 6. With every round, the pain kept going down, albeit 1 level or even 1/2 level at a time, until we eventually left it at a 1.

Various statements included :

About the pain:

"even though I still have this pain in my chin, ..."
"it hurts so much"

"I can't talk"

"I can't laugh"

"this is to be expected, the surgery was only yesterday"

"this pain in my chin"

"the tenderness in the tissues and muscles in my chin"

"it hurts when I stretch my skin"
"it hurts inside and outside my bottom lip"

alternating on the positive side with :

"I do love and accept myself,"
"I forgive my body / my chin / my jaw / my gums / my teeth / the surgeon / myself for the pain" (while we were forgiving, we might as well get everybody in!)

"I choose to heal now/immediately"

"I choose to release the pain now"

"I choose to release the remaining pain completely"

"I thank my body / my chin / my jaw / my gums / my teeth / my immune system for the healing that took place already "

"I choose to get back to normal now"

We were on it for about 20 minutes. When we came back to the other people we were with, they found it difficult to believe what they saw, and still, Lynda's face was relaxed, and she chatted away and laughed along, barely able herself to believe this was really happening.  Definitely a new addict!

Skeptical as she was to begin with, Lynda's face obviously came to show various levels of amazement. Amongst the comments she made...
At the beginning: "you're going to laugh at me. It was an 8, but now it's a 7". 
When it came to 5 : "so it was all in my mind?"
It certainly wasn't "all in her mind". Her body had received a shock (the surgery), which unbalanced her energies. By tapping while focussing on the issue, we simply helped her body to heal, restoring the flow of energies which had been disturbed.


I find that emergencies like that are amongst the most rewarding, and probably the easiest to get a "minute wonder" from. A brilliant first aid tool, don't you think?

 

1 week later - follow-up:

The pain never returned. Lynda went to see her physician and told him all about it. He's interested in finding out more. Maybe an opportunity to spread EFT towards the medical world?

Keep tapping!