Beware, this is not about these new years resolutions that will disappear into thin air. I'm talking about those things than light your fire, that make you feel alive and move forward in life, which make you smile when you think about the future.

Well, smile when you think about the future. In some cases, it's obvious, comes without saying, the future is bright, smiling right back at us!

But in other cases, it's far from obvious. It might even seem unreal. Disease, financial trouble, family issues, feelings of hopelessness, feeling stuck in every area of your life.. why bother looking into the future and making up plans based on thin air?

Well, why not then?

Every single realisation of humanity started with a dream. A dream that sounded crazy. But also a dream that ended up sprouting into reality, with persistence, or sometimes easily enough. There has been crazy dreams of health, such as the stories I mentioned yesterday, of the ones you might remember me discussing before such as Jean Claude Gruau and all those who, like him, healed their bladder cancer, avoiding surgical removal of their organ, just by exploring the medical benefits of fasting, or Norman Cousins who escaped the paralysis resulting from an Ankylosing Spondylitis by laughing his way out of it (and a few other discoveries).

Other crazy dreams turned reality include freedom from the burden of sexual abuse for Sue and many others. Incredible dreams of financial success, family re-unions... What ARE your dreams?

Today, I'm suggesting that you follow Antoine de Saint Exupéry's advice : “Future. You don't have to plan for it, just allow it to be.”

Could you find 10 things that you would like to allow in your future?

How to write your list:

There are many ways to look at this exercise. Your dreams might be so vivid for you that you only need to put pen to paper and it will write on its own.

Or you might not even dare writing them down, because they seem too improbable, too crazy. If this is your case, you can use more “acceptable” sentences, such as “I'm opening up to the possibility that...” or “I wonder how I would feel if...”

Or you might not even have one dream coming to mind at all. I felt that way that during depression. But if you are reading this, somewhere at the bottom of your heart, there is a small light of hope. What about opening the door to it? Here is one way for you to write that list: take a piece of paper, and split it in 2 columns. On the left, list 10 aspects of your life that don't suit you, such as :

- fatigue or symptoms from a disease - a situation in your family - a financial situation, and so on...

On the right, write down a positive version of that situation. E.g.

- “ I have no energy to run my daily life” might become “Everyday I feel more and more energetic!” - “I can't cope anymore with this situation with X.” might become “The situation with X is solved to every concerned person's benefit”. - “I'm fed-up carrying all this weight around” might become “my body is naturally reaching its balance and I love the feeling that I am at my ideal weight”.

Here's your list!

What to do with your list?

You “only” need to tap now!

There again, you have several options.

- use one point per dream. Tap, read your choice and ask ONE opening question such as “I'm wondering which action I could take to get a tiny bit closer to my dream?”. If no answer is coming out, no worries, the question has been asked, the answer will come in its own time.

- if you have a bit more time available, you could tap a full round or more per dream, and describe your dream in details, what your life would be like if this dream became true, what you would feel in your body, what you would see around you... Don't you sometimes watch funny or touching movies which make you feel good? This is the same, except YOU are the director!

So enjoy your directing job, and I'll see you tomorrow for step 4. 

Step 2 : Activate Forgiveness and Letting go.

Here you go, I just dropped two explosive words in one go! Forgiveness and Letting go?!?!?

Explosive concepts which come back over and again in nearly each case study you will find on my website or anywhere else.

Forgiving yourself, or others. A step that can sometimes seem impossible. Ans still...

Maybe you already heard about the beautiful work Dr Lory Leyden initiates a few years ago in Rwanda, with genocide survivors? In (very) short, it started with introducing EFT to to groups of these survivors, who witnessed or went through the worst you can imagine, rape, torture, murder. And so on... I am not talking about this to darken your day, but to illuminate it. The result of these sessions soon became apparent, and an unthinkable thing started to happen : forgiveness! These young adults, who survived the unforgivable... managed to forgive! As Lory says it, if THEY can forgive, then here is a path to world peace. And it doesn't stop there! The programme now evolved towards a social and economical rebirth for a generation which could have been a lost generation. You can learn more there.

But back to the point, and more specifically to YOUR past and future year, did you experience forgiveness last year? If no example is coming to mind, would you be open to considering the possibility of forgiveness to open this new year?

Maybe a few practical examples could help to illustrate my point.

Think about Julia and the anger she kept locked in her shoulder for 5 years before she could be freed by forgiveness, think about Emma who let go of her fear of relapse for the cancer she got out of, think about Sue who ended over 45 years of hidden suffering, think about Anna who let go of the belief that she had to suffer after her surgery, Hélène who stopped trying to impose her thinking on the world around her, Laetitia forgiving her mother after her mother's passing, Marguerite who “used” forgiveness to lessen her allergic symptoms and treatments, or Tessa, 8, who forgave herself for her past mistake and got back to amazing school reports (not to mention her mum who let go of an old failure memory in the process, a lovely case study if you haven't already read that one!). The list is endless. But forgiveness is not necessarily easy, and can even be dangerous if we try to “impose” it before we are ready, as Caroline's story is teaching us.

So forgiveness and letting go are really actions that can uncover treasures of wellbeing and relief.

So think back to your past year. Could you identify 10 situations or people (including yourself) that you might have forgiven or let go? That can include disease and symptoms, Incidentally, when I researched how EFT can help relief in the case of Lyme disease recently, I discovered from Claudia Schecter that forgiveness, there too, is a key step towards healing.

So as for step 1, take your time with this, find 10 things/people/situations where you have applied forgiveness or which you have let go of during the past year, of which you hare ready to consider for this coming year

Write them down and... tap along! One point per event/situation, in front of the mirror would be a good idea.

In my case it could be :

Top of the head: “Christine, I forgive you for having taken sooo long before you got to your ideal eating pattern!” (I had learned a long time ago about the really bad impact of sugar on morale and physical health, and I had learned in 2013 about the incredible benefits of fasting, but it took me all that time to find my perfect fit and put it in place... It didn't really prevent me from a few excesses these last days by the way, but I know that can be easily corrected, so I am ready to forgive myself for that too and put my energy into correcting the situation!

Eyebrow: “Christine, I forgive you for your 15th Birthday!” Ah ah! I bet you are wondering what this could be about? Well, maybe you'll learn about it during the year...

Side of the eye: “Christine I forgive you for your delays in publishing your newsletter!” (Remember, I told you yesterday that this part would be in step 2! Here we go!

Handing it back to you!!

So get your pen and paper, go through your grudges and angers and resentments and beliefs, those you released over the past year and and others... A good way to begin a year, don't you think?

See you tomorrow for step 3!

 

 

Everybody knows HOW to celebrate Christmas. It's a time for sharing gifts, right?
Advent calendars are helping children to cope with the excitement and wait until they get the “real” presents on the 25th, at the bottom of the Christmas tree. Quite far off from the the ritual which originally directed their attention towards “good” actions or good thoughts.
Santa Claus, quite far from the original Turkish Bishop of the 3rd century, has become a champion across all categories in Sales and Marketing in our consumer society.
That's HOW Christmas is celebrated.

But WHY all this running around? My wish here is not to discuss about religion, a very personal topic I believe. However, I am wondering : what is all this frenzy giving YOU? Which gifts are you receiving from it? I'm not talking about perfume or gadgets. I'm talking about real gifts, not the kind that just pile up in cupboards or bins, but the kind that plant happiness, those you receive in your heart?

The original message from this christian celebration is one of joy and peace. We talk of Christmas Truce. So I'd like to take this opportunity to suggest a truce with your life's difficulties, and receive, appreciate and give back a little bit of joy and peace. You can do this just by taking one minute of silence, focussing on your breathing. Or... don't tell me you didn't expect this coming from me... by tapping?

This tapping is starting on the top of the head and finishing in the same way. As usual, please adapt it freely to your language, story, inspiration...

First take one (or a few) deep inspirations, and imagine a picture, a sound, a perfume or a colour that's a sign of peace and joy for you.

(Top of the head) Today, I'm welcoming a joyful peace in every cell of my body
(Eyebrow) Today, I'm cultivating peaceful enjoyment in every fibre of my being
(Side of the eye) Today I'm receiving a cheerful peace with gratitude.
(Under the eye) Today I'm seeing the serene enjoyment coming to me from everywhere, people who surround me, nature...
(Under the nose) Today I'm choosing to savour this peace spreading deep into my being and life.
(Chin) Today I'm choosing to multiply this cheerful sweetness and make it bear fruit
(Collarbone) Today I'm redistributing the fruits of this contagious enjoyment to anybody who wants them, and everybody else too!
(Under the arm) Today I'm noticing the sparkles of smiling peace in every person whom I see or think of.
(Under the breast) Today I'm naturally seeing the brightness of soothing enjoyment around me.
(Wrists) Today I'm savouring the satisfied serenity which I can see in others.
(Head) Today I'm choosing to embody peace and enjoyment in every word, action and thought.... Thank you!

May peace and joy be with you... NOW!

Let me suggest a 4 steps action plan over the next 4 days, starting today.

 

First Step: Activate gratitude and acknowledgement.

For those who are interested, there's one word in French which entails these 2 aspects : “reconnaissance”. So English is Easier and clearer in this case.

Think back about your year. Could you identify 10 things for which you are grateful, or for which you can acknowledge your own strength, creativity, achievement etc...? Things about which you could actually say “I am proud of myself”?

If you can't think of anything obvious off the top of your head, start with “small things”. The kind of things which are so “obvious” that we might forget that if we didn't have them, life would be quite different. E.g, do you have a roof over your head? Is that a reason for gratitude? Or at least to feel safe and express gratitude. Maybe this is not the ideal roof, maybe the neighbours are a problem (I know some of you will smile on that one!), maybe there are financial issues, maybe the place could benefit from a few jobs. But if you had no roof at all, how would you see someone in your current position? Aren't you lucky?

Staying on the same topic, if you have a place you can call home, can this be because you have been able to create it and keep it? Maybe this is reason to acknowledge yourself for that achievement?

Maybe 2014 is the year you got to learn about Eft, or maybe the year you got to really get serious about it and benefit from your work. Another reason to congratulate yourself?

There there are more specific events. Maybe you survived really difficult times, a bereavement, maybe several for some of you. Maybe were you strong enough to overcome a disease or at least some aspects of it? Maybe you uncovered in yourself strengths you didn't even know you had? Another opportunity to pat yourself on the back, or to be grateful if you received help form people, medical treatments, etc...

Take your time and find 10 of these positive views about your past year, at this time of a closing year.

Write them down and... tap along! One point per event/situation, in front of the mirror would be a good idea.

In my case it could be :

Top of the head: “Christine, you are lucky to have a home! Thank you!”

Eyebrow: “Christine, you can be proud you improved on the regularity of your newsletters this year” (OK, anybody raising your hand to signal that this is far from perfect, please hold it, this will be addressed in step 2! For now, try and look at your year through rosy lenses)

Handing it back to you!!

So get your pen and paper, put on rosy lenses and get tapping! I'll meet you again soon for Step 2!

 

 

Gratitude is talked about again and again. But what is is exactly? Beyond a simple lopite “thank you”, gratitude is a feeling that comes from deep in our heart, spreads good feelings in all of our cells, and has a tendency to overflow as a giant smile!

Children provide us with an endless supply of observations to study. Unless there is a trauma situation, any baby will naturally smile, generously rewarding others when all of their basic needs are met (sleep, food, hygiene... and cuddles!)

Somewhere between the baby we once were and the now, we can misplace this innate skill. Particularly when life doesn't seem to fulfil these 4 basic needs, and presents us with obstacles in the areas of health, relationships, finances and whatnot. And as any knowledge that goes unused for a while, we tend to forget about it. Gratitude is still here though, inside...

What about reviving you gratitude skill with a short daily exercise, a tapping practice? You'll see, it's like physical exercise, it will do you good, particularly on the long term, without the aches.

Try it and let me know what it does for you!

You don't know where to start? No problem, here is a free tapping script to reclaim your gratitude skills!

With all my gratitude for your reading... and for the contagious gratitude you are about to increase around you! :)