If you'd asked me that question when I was in a deep clinical depression, I might not have even heard it, or I might have answered in some general way, something like “to be healthy, to have a family, a job, a house, money”. But it is not a topic I would have spent too much time on, I was far too busy with very important things, such as grocery shopping or going to work, those kind of things.

Since then, I've met lots of people who would react the same way. And yes, when we're drowning in daily obligations, or deep into disease, financial issues, a toxic, violent or simply dull environement, happiness seems OK for other people, but we can feel we're just lucky to manage survival. Better not look any further, we might lose the little we have.

So let me ask again: if happiness was delivered to your very door, what would it look like? Think about it for a minute. Explore the idea...

What if YOU could, all by yourself, create all that only you imagined?

No, this is not a joke, there are so many things you can do today, or more specifically RIGHT NOW, to create what you consider to be Happiness. You could start tapping of course, but not only that.

I came across a French TV program, that I believe should be published and paid for by WHO (Not just any “who”, the World-Health-Organization-who!). Their aim was to “make most recent scientific discoveries about happiness available to all”. It was called “Their secrets of happiness”. Sounds appealing to me, no?

However, they had to stop the programme after 3 episodes... because of a lack of audience. It makes you wonder... Do we (as in French people in this case) really want the tools to find happiness? A friend highlighted that maybe it is that people who are really ready to take ownership of their happiness are not in front of the TV anyway. Fair point.

But what about you now? Are you interested in creating your Happiness?

Here are a few comments I've heard from clients :
- “ When everything is fine, I seem to need to create new problems”
- “if my problem ever gets solved, something else will happen” (something bad, supposedly!)
- “I can't be happy when I see all this misery in the world”
- “I could never be happy because...”

The list is endless. What is your list?
I invite you to ask that "happiness question" the same way a child asks “why”, again and again: "what if happiness was possible for me?”, “what is happiness like for me?”, “I wonder how I would feel , if I was really happy?”
Stay tune for a tapping script on this topic in a few days!
Meanwhile, may I wish you a wonderful “Happiness Growing Day”?

PS: If you're interested in happily practicing your French, you'll find programme number 1 here
Such a programme probably exists in English, I just don't know of any. If you do, would you let know?

Did you ever open a book, watch a film, wear a piece of clothing that you had “forgotten” for a long time, and enjoy it again, in a different way you did before, because you have changed since the past time you used it? We could even think “why on earth did I not do it earlier?” The same feeling you might experience when getting in touch with friends again after a long interruption.

Sometimes, it's not really that we have forgotten “it” for a long time, but quite simply that we never gave it much attention at first glance.

That's what happened to Alice. After the French Congrès Virtuel d'EFT 2014, she bought the package of the conferences recordings, so she could listen to them again and benefit even more in the long run. Every speaker offered a bonus attached to this package. Therefore she received 14 free gifts, including mine, a 40 pages PDF called “Healing Path, Life Path – Road guide for the traveller”.

As we reached a specific point of our work together on her own path, I asked her if she'd used that guide. Not really, but she got curious, and here is the result, one week later.

“When I first opened your bonus, I looked at the table of contents, went through a few pages, and I closed it down. Verdict : interesting, but not a priority.
One week ago, you suggested I'd use it as part of this work we're doing together. Since your advice is usually good, I did it. Not really convinced, but not rejecting it!
What a surprise! It reveals its treasures from the very first pages!
''Traveller's Guide'' is its name. I found it a little bit arrogant.
It deserves it, in the end, I think. It got me right in the heart of “real issues”. Thus it allowed me to unlock an old rusty lock, that has been “over” for over 30 years, but was still so active and painful!!!!”

It looks like it was a fruitful experience. The so-called lock was “simply” that from te time she was a child up into adulthood, Alice's family used to tease her by calling her “Little Genius”, in an mocking and repetitive way. It might sound harmless when we look at it with an adult eye, but this leitmotiv had left a vivid, deep and far reaching open wound in Alice. The term “Little Genius” had thus remained a trigger for suffering over several decades. Things changed though went she decided to use the Guide which had been sitting there in front of her, available. As she puts it so nicely:

“The “Little Genius” - how delightful to have no suffering and enjoy laughing about it – Little Genius, was I saying, made a giant step!”

Amongst the numerous, sudden, varied, sometimes unexpected but always pleasant changes that Alice states after her “unlocking”, we can mention:

- a switch in her relationship with others
“I visited my neighbour just to know how she was!”, “X had nearly developed a rule to avoid me when he would see me. And today, he knew me! Unreal!, “I booked a table tomorrow with sea-view to share diner with Laura.”, I accepted that a friend would come and stay with me for 3 days. And I'm delighted with it! Arg! I am about to become a normal person... So great....”

- A change in her wardrobe content

“Except black and white I only wear/used to wear warm colours. I was nearly unable to wear cold colours. My clothing is currently experiencing an evolutive chromatic mutation! Is that bad? On the contrary! These last months, a little bit, these last days, quite a lot... I bought light green/turquoise, blue, green and violet clothes.And I really feel like wearing them. Quite impossible to conceive of such a short time ago!”)

- A decrease in her symptoms of “Acute Perfectionitis”
“I managed an update on my CV in 10 minutes. It used to take me hours when I had to modify my CV.... One outcome : I take faster decisions.“

The Guide's treasures only appeared to Alice when she used it to uncover her own healing treasures.

So back to you. What can YOU use NOW to move forward on your own path? Take your eyes off the screen, look around you. Could it be that, right under your nose, or not far out, there is a clue to explore, or just an object you don't see anymore, out of habit? What if you looked at it as if it was the first time?

Which new information could you see or hear by opening again a long forgotten book, watching a film, or by getting back in touch with a friend? Or maybe you'd forgotten you can tap :-)

Just a slight warning, a though such as “I SHOULD have done it for a long time” could come near your mind, with attached guilt, sadness or other. If this ever happened, could that be an opportunity to tap and clean something out?

ChaumAideThese experiences are very different, both by the scale of the disasters involved and by the action they triggered. But I find them both as beautiful in that they brought the best out of these children who are themselves in need, and hopefully out of us.

The first one is in France. Back in June 2013, flash floodings destroyed many villages, people lost their houses, and even when the houses are still there, the cleaning work is impossible to imagine. Groups of teenagers, from Scouts groups to “difficult suburbs” groups, are helping to clean this up. As one recipient of the help comments “I would never had believed this from young people, I expected help from 30-40 year old people.” anscouts innondationsd another says “To give then you are in need yourself, it's already a lot”.

If you want to know more, click on the pictures for a couple of examples (sorry, French speaking only! The only English speaking pages I found about the event where about evacuating Lourdes or people being killed by the storms. Either I didn't look hard enough, or it says something about which information spreads the most...)

 

The second ePjtLIGHTRwandaxample involves one of these lovely unexpected side effects of EFT. You might already have heard of Dr Lori Leyden, who has initiated an amazing healing project in Rwanda (projectLIGHTrwanda.com), helping genocide orphans, not only to recover from the many traumas they lived through or witnessed, but also to rebuild their country by running their owns lives and create businesses. The whole program relies on “ambassadors”. They are survivors who healed, and became teachers, teaching EFT, community building and creating and running businesses. That in itself is amazing of course, but here is the unexpected side effect.
In DecembeJT PjtLightr 2012, the killing in an school in Newton Connecticut USA also left very deep scars. JT was 11 when his younger brother was killed. Understandably, he didn't want to go back to school for many months. Tapping helped of course, but it wasn't enough. Dr Leyden, who is involved in supporting that healing process too, got the brilliant idea to set up a skype call between project Light Ambassadors and JT. They talked, tapped of course, and that was what JT needed. He went back to school the next day. But it doesn't stop there... In return, he found his own way to thank them, collecting enough money to send one of the ambassadors to university. You can learn more there.


My take from this is that we can look at disasters and despair, or we can use them as “opportunities” to heal, heal the people who are directly touched, heal us, heal others. What is YOUR take on this?



 

 

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Perfection can be seen as negative. Like when it prevents us from finishing something. (“I can't say it's finished, it's not perfect... Yet!”)
Perfection can be seen as positive. When we look at a perfect sunset, for example. We might even see it in people around us, within us maybe?

Obstinacy can be viewed as negative. Then it's called stubbornness.
Obstinacy can be viewed as positive. Then it's called persistence.

What about procrastination, then? Don't tell me we can see procrastination as positive? Well, I'd say so.

Clearly, procrastination can be seen as negative. Particularly when it reminds us of all that we avoid doing, day after day, week after week, month after month (shall I continue?)

But procrastination can also be seen as positive. Think about it. What if  it had something to teach us? What if it was protecting us from doing something that is not really right for us, or doing it in a way that is not right for us?

What if procrastination was a clue? What if it was telling us : “You have a choice here, do you know that? “

Let's talk about my newsletter.

I had initially decided to provide you with a case study, an FAQ (more specifically one answer!), a free script and maybe a blog every month.

Keen to be perfect, I may publish all of these... or none of them! (This way at least, I'm sure nothing is imperfect!). The result is that “bad procrastination” wins and the newsletter remains hidden, out of your reach!

My persistent-obstinacy means I still have the wish to provide you with all of this.
My stubborn-obstinacy tells me: “If you don't spend enough time getting it ALL ready and perfect, it won't be good enough”. “Bad-procrastination” wins and you see no newsletter for a while, again...

Where is “good-procrastination” in all this, then? You could argue about it. The time I didn't put into the newsletter went somewhere else. In the time spent with/for my clients, some time was used for my personal life too :-), for planting my vegetable seeds for this year, for preparing and participating in a French EFT Virtual Summit and answering questions from it. All answers that could be of interest to others, incidentally...

All this lead me to realise that yes, listening to you, this newsletter is a good idea, so I shall activate my persistent-obstinacy. On the other hand, observing my procrastination, I realised I have a really long list of topics for FAQs, tapping scripts and blogs, all of which could be made available to you fast enough, while case studies are much more time consuming and delay everything else. I have to confess that my “friend” Perfection is particularly active and stubborn when it comes to sharing someone's story, for this person's highest good as much as for the highest good of the readers with whom that person is willing to share her experience!

I therefore now choose to allow Persistent-Obstinacy to take over Stubborn-Obstinacy, and to contemplate the possibility of continuing this newsletter in a slightly less formal way, and continue to support you in exploring EFT in YOUR daily life, maybe with less regular case studies, but more regular information and tips.

Even though this solution is not perfect, and even though I'd like to take the time to send a regular, complete, perfect newsletter, I choose to thank Procrastination for opening my eyes to the perfection of my imperfections. And you know what? I still love and accept myself anyway, even with this imperfect solution!

Enough about me. This newsletter is for YOU. So here are a few topics for you to explore and tap on:
When are you experiencing stubborn-obstinacy, and when is it persistent-obstinacy?
When is perfection blocking you?
If your procrastination was directing your attention to a choice, what would that choice be?

Write down your answers, and see where tapping will lead you with this?

Thanks to my friends POP!

Tappingly yours.

In the past years, I received this story several times through mail, the author seems to be Bob Perks. Here is an extract.

Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, "I love you. I wish you enough." She in turn said, "Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy."

They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?"

"Yes, I have," I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.

So I knew what this man experiencing.

"Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?" I asked.

"I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral," he said.

"When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, "I wish you enough." May I ask what that means?"

He began to smile. "That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more."When we said 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them," he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much

bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Goodbye."

He then began to sob and walked away.

And what about you ? Do YOU have enough ?